Ok came off a 7 week gig working with this writer/producer
couple that have been in the business for a long time. Almost two months of
listening to these two bicker, undermine one another and hold very public
displays of really tacky behavior that just made everyone very uncomfortable.
Ok came off a 7 week gig working with this writer/producer
couple that have been in the business for a long time. Almost two months of
listening to these two bicker, undermine one another and hold very public
displays of really tacky behavior that just made everyone very uncomfortable.
It was sort of like going to that dinner party in “Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf”. Uuuugggghhh… would
rather a wank with number seven sandpaper then do that again. Had to simply
tune it all out, dolefully nod my head and carry on. The constant conversation was WHY are they
even together. Why endure all of that day in and day out. My personal theory
was that the energy of their ongoing conflict sustained them, nourished them.
Perhaps in lew of sex they fought.
Perhaps in lew of sex they fought.
Who knows. What did dawn upon me was all the stories of my
friends that have and are going through divorce. Upon gumming and morseling
these various memories a smile ran across my face as I found four basic
categories for “D-day She moves on and he cannot handle it... usually the woman is
not getting what she needs from the union and seeks or even finds it elsewhere
He moves on and she is wicked pissed… usually some guy
deciding to trade up
(guys never leave unless something else compels them to)
(guys never leave unless something else compels them to)
They both decide that it was a mistake… shake hands and move
on
(could even lead to a great friendship)
(could even lead to a great friendship)
They both hate each other… like hate
(if one ends up dead you know the first place to look)
(if one ends up dead you know the first place to look)
To be perfectly frank most of the divorce stories I know my
male friends are at fault and in a way that saddens me. I mean the fights over
something a banal as money and assets. The little games to get more then the
other or the irrational thought/decision that the other party is not deserving
half of the marital assets. Such a waste of time. I have a great friend that
stays in an unhappy marriage because he does NOT want to give up half his
fortune to his wife. So they both cheat
and spend their time properly fucking up their kids.
There is no price to high for freedom and peace of mind but
it seems that there is an unwillingness to even TRY and work things out or
reach mutual understanding. Then again who wants to be in constant negotiation
mode. Why do so many unions go so wrong?
I have a theory:
With women perhaps it is from not being truly be honest with
what it is they really want and seeking that which they think is good for them.
For example she likes rock and roll biker types but feels a banker is a better
“catch” or marriage material. For me this is TRULY fucked up… if you like a
particular type then go for it 100% no BS compromises and no time wasting. No
man will hit thirty and decide it is time to get hitched and seek out the safe
bet.
With men it is a gross lack of maturity in the criteria for
selection and/or seeking a pet to either dote on or beat up on (figuratively)
or even worse a prop that exists to only serve.
This is kind of sad and not only diminishes both parties involved it also denies the real joy when you find that partner who with, together the world is for the taking.
This is kind of sad and not only diminishes both parties involved it also denies the real joy when you find that partner who with, together the world is for the taking.
What do you think?
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